Friday, 10 July 2015

Movin’ on

I said this to myself (in a blog post) almost exactly a year ago. Today, I had to go back and read that blog post to find out if these words of wisdom are still applicable. I find that they are, even though I’m now applying them to a very different situation.

It’s been so long that I had to rummage through the blog to verify the dates, but as far back as February 8, 2014, I talked about how Strange Women (a book based on the rmj blog) was going to be released that same year. This came so close to happening (or, so I thought) that I could taste it. But as time went by and 2014 turned into 2015, I realized that, for a variety of complex reasons, it simply wasn’t going to happen – or, at least not in the way that I had originally envisioned it.

Despite the two different situations to which I’ve had to apply this nugget of wisdom (‘Sometimes things don’t go as planned …’), as I write this, it has occurred to me that the initial feelings are often the same when your plans don’t work out exactly how you thought they should/would. Whether it’s about the end of a marriage or of some other closely-held dream, the initial incomprehension, shock, and befuddlement are quite similar in character, if not in degree.

But, here’s what I’ve learned:

That’s life.

Deal with it.

Get over it.

Move on.

Despite the twists and turns, and although this new decision was brought about by an unanticipated turn of events, I’m brimming with excitement about the new direction I’m taking with publishing the book. There’s no way this new direction could’ve been paved without my deciding to simply ‘move on.’ Once I did, I began to see all sorts of possibilities. Actual details will be emerging in the next couple of weeks. In the meantime, as painful as it is for me, I’ve finally started taking down a certain proportion of the blog content as it will be made available in the book.

Stay tuned.


  1. Dear RMJ,
    I actually saw a post about your book on Facebook and I had to come here to see if you're saying anything about it too. I'm glad you were able to work through the challenges you had with the publishing. I'm waiting eagerly for the book's release.

    Don't stop writing sis, I've really missed reading from you.

    1. Hi, Casio. It's so nice to hear from you. I've missed hearing from you and have missed the blog, too. I wish I could write every day! Thank you so much; the book will finally be getting to you soon. Please stay tuned!

  2. 100% agree with you. Stuck it up, move on that's life... I told myself this same words in February 2015 when I hit my lowest point because of UK immigration incompetency. I started a blog about it you are welcome to read my story ... . My intention is to let the world know how incompetent the UKBA are and what their real intention is with UK Immigration.

    I do hold on to the fact that its fine to cry over events that don't go your way but you need to step out of that event so you can address it with an open mind from a distance..... that's life so you can deal with it. When it gives you potatoes you can make chip, mash or crisps.

    1. Or, as our people say, 'When life shows you pepper, make pepper soup!' Thanks, Tee Mamms and good to hear from you. I'd love to read about your experiences and will do so (what an interesting idea for a blog). You hang in there.