Because as a Christian woman going through a divorce, I need to talk in order to heal. You can only talk so much to your friends and loved ones without sounding like a broken record.
I read somewhere that it takes an average of 2 years to heal from an extra-marital affair. Which friend or loved one can bear a two-year conversation without being driven up the wall? After a while, you begin to sense that your ‘talking time,’ as a person desperate to heal, is up.
As Stacy Morrison (author of Falling apart in one piece: One optimist’s journey through the hell of divorce) put it: ‘My family and friends had gone with me on this journey as far as they could go. I would have to go the rest of the way on my own.” This blog represents ‘the rest of the way’ for me. Through this blog, I can have an endless conversation with myself, with others, until my healing is complete. I can say as much or as little as I want, when I want, when I need to.
This is a process that helps me make sense of the demise of my Christian marriage, and in so doing, create closure for myself.
I have to warn you, though: the blog is not written in chronological order by any means. I write about whatever comes to me, whenever it comes. This is a healing process, and I’ve learned that healing can often be haphazard.